Date Night Rhythms

When I was about to get married, one of the things my sister-in-law told me was to immediately set up a week night that my husband and I could use as our weekly date night.  She said it was so important to get that rhythm established before bringing any other kiddos into the family.  As a great listener, I did exactly what she said ..... NOT.  I didn't take the advice and I wish I had! 

We joked about 3 years ago when the time was coming for us to renew our CPR certification for foster parenting.  We HAD to take a day away because we would be decertified if we didn't renew it.  It was pretty sad but we had to laugh because that was our first date out in about 5 months.  We had three kiddos of close age and going out just never seemed feasible.  

Thankfully, Patrick and I (almost 6 years later) are now in a rhythm where every other Monday night we sneak away for time with just us. We have a recurring babysitter who comes every other Monday from 7-9.  Whether we walk to the end of the street for ice cream, take a jog up the stairs by our house, or sit on the front porch - it doesn't matter.  What matters is that we both prioritized time for one another to be together.

I'm not sure what it is for you but I would encourage you to try it out!  Make it once a month in the begining and add on time if possible.  If finances are an issue, you can ask a friend to date night swap (who doesn't love watching netflix at someone else's house where you don't have to think about chores!), barter laundry/dinner with a college student, or enjoy a date night in!