Bedtime Routines

One routine we find incredibly important is the bedtime routine. At Sleepy Cues, we love to keep the components simple so that you can even do the same routine if you’re in a rush or on the go! 

The first thing to consider logistically is the bedtime. We love for kids all the way up to age 5/6 to have a 12 hour “night”. This can include night feedings, but we would love night hours (no talking/playtime) to be 12. Consider your family and what time you will have to wake your child in the morning for school/work/daycare.

Once you’ve decided on a time, give yourself 15-20 minutes of a routine. You can always add bathtime before the routine if you need to bathe every other night or every night. Make sure that the items you include could be shortened if necessary. Here’s a sample infant and toddler routine for a 7pm bedtime. 



6:30pm: bathtime

6:45pm: pajamas/diaper and massage/lotion

6:50pm: feeding time before bed in the dark room/white noise on

7pm: place in crib/bassinet for sleep


6:15pm: bathtime  

6:30pm: pajamas/diaper

6:40pm: book reading time  

6:50pm: final liquids

6:55pm: Night Night Song and cuddle stuffed animals/blankets for bed.  

7pm: put in crib or bed for night sleep

As you can see, you can use these same elements on the go if needed. You can incorporate these same steps at a hotel or in a stroller if you’re out late. Make sure that you have the same white noise sounds and blankets/lovey for your child to take with them on the go.



Contributions and Commisions

We want to recognize that kids of all ages can begin contributing to our families! We find many of our clients do not realize the household tasks/“chores”/contributions that their child or children are capable of. Every family has their of philosophy with regards to wether your child gets paid for their contributions or not. We acknowledge that this is a personal decision. In this space we simply want to brainstorm a few ideas in hopes that it would lead to a conversation with you family about what tasks could benefit the rhythms of your family.

Here’s a super helpful list from The Crafting Chicks: 


Another simple, but effective tool is teaching our kiddos about how our money is allotted for different things after we earn it. Think of the following categories and if they might make sense to incorporate with your family?!

Family Tax, Giving, Saving, Spending 

Wether you decide to give your kiddos an allowance, have them work for their money, or choose a combination or the two, it can be very helpful for them to divide up their money into categories. 

In our house (Robin) my kiddos have enjoyed savings their money up towards a goal of spending it on something they really want. They collect money for random chores that go above an beyond their normal contributions, from the “tooth fairy”, or from grandparents/family for their birthdays. We recently gave them each $10 from our larger family tax refund to enjoy spending or saving. Our oldest (8) even asked if he could open his own savings account at the bank to start saving even more money for his “Lamborghini”. 😂😂😂 #goals right?! 

Whatever way you choose, it’s fun to think about how you’re taxed and how you spend, save, and give as an adult to help your kiddos learn! What ways did you learn as a kid about finances and family contributions?!

Routines and Structures

  • This month we will be sharing all about family routines and structures. We all know how much children thrive in an environment where they know what to expect. The reality, however, is that all of these structures and routines take work to implement. We want to give you guys some ideas this month of ways you can begin to slowly add some more rhythms in your daily life with your kids. 

    One of the most important things to remember when you’re looking at your  specific family, is that everyone in the family has a place. Don’t discount a toddler or preschooler from contributing to the family in his or her own way. Sit down with your family (or husband/wife if you have small kids) and come up with a list of ideas about how your children can participate more in the daily routines of the family. Do you always need someone to clear the dishes off the breakfast or dinner table? Do you open the garage door every day when you leave for school/work? Do you need someone to carry the toys upstairs at the end of the day? Even these small ways can include even the smallest kids to learn how to participate in the family. 

    Once you decide on a list of 10 or so items, each week you can gradually help you children add those to their daily routines. Tell them about the new routine at a time that’s not when the event is happening. Then, when the time comes the next day, have them participate with you. The following day they can start to do it on their own!

    Take your time and if it doesn’t come second nature right away, don’t get frustrated with your child. Maybe you can continue to help them or co-regulate as we like to say (for a while) until they get it down pat!